Second Trimester to do List
Since our first trimester to do list post did so amazingly well, I figured it was time to start working on a second trimester to do list post. So, let’s get started!
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One of the most exciting things to do this trimester is to share the news with everyone! If you were cautious to share during the first trimester, now is the time to share with those who you would like to know. You’ll start showing soon so it may be a question that people are already thinking. The risk for miscarriage lowers drastically after the first trimester. So, if that was your hold back, it would probably be okay to share now.
Get your anatomy scan : If baby cooperates, this may be when you can find out the gender, if you’re interested. This exam is WAY MORE than just finding out the gender of the baby. The sonographer has a list of images that they are required to get of baby from head to toe. To find out more about what to expect during your ultrasound appointments, check out the ultrasound post. This is a very excited scan because the baby is starting to look more and more like a baby. If you have felt baby move already, it’s fun to see them move on screen and see if you can feel it at the same time.
Discuss childcare options for when/if you return to work : This can be hard for some couples to discuss and make decisions on. I feel like a lot of mothers would love to stay home with their children, at least for the first couple years. But, the question is, is it financially possible to do that? There are a couple factors you need to keep in mind when discussing your options. Can family help out? We are blessed and thankful that my mother offered to help out with childcare. Can friends help? Is it cost effective to put the baby in day care versus what the mother would make working? For some families, it costs more money to put the child in day care than the mother would be making. So, financially it makes way more sense for her to be a stay at home mother. I would love to stay at home full time, but, for now, we need my pay check to stay afloat. We are slowly finding ways to cut back so I can cut back hours at work too.
Plan the nursery (and get started on it if you can) : This is a fun thing to start thinking about. If you know the gender, that may help spark some ideas going around. But, it’s not something you have to know to get started on the nursery. You can find tons of fun ideas and inspiration on Pinterest. That is actually where we found the inspiration for Caroline’s room. I loved the idea because it worked for a nursery, but, it is also something that can grow with Caroline as she gets older. I won’t find myself trying to repaint and redo her room in just a few short years. I still haven’t shared Caroline’s nursery, but, I guess that is something I need to work on for another post. Dave and his dad painted Caroline’s room and they’re very proud of it- as they should be. Her room looks even better than the inspiration room we saw on Pinterest. I’m very proud of them and, oh so thankful for the hard work they put into her room.
Hospital Tour : If you aren’t familiar with your hospital or birthing center, check with the hospital to see when they recommend you do a Hospital tour. This is when they’re supposed to take you around and show you the labor area, delivery area, recovery area if necessary. Some hospitals show the NICU (just in case), some do not. Your significant other can find the vending machines and cafeteria. You can plan the quickest parking area and route for when it is go time. Unfortunately, the hospital tour is something we were unable to do. I went in to premature labor at 25 weeks and we found our way in shock and fear to the labor and delivery unit. We had two more stays at the hospital due to the complications before we had her. So, we felt that we had been to the hospital enough times to know our route and we had stayed in multiple rooms and knew what to expect- for the most part. Besides, I was on bed rest and was only allowed to leave the house for doctor appointments.
Birthing classes and figure out your preferential birth plan : Birthing classes are optional. Some couples want to take them to get an idea of what to expect and others opt out of it. Dave and I were just discussing the idea of whether or not we wanted to attend a class before I went in to premature labor. So, those classes went out the window. I wasn’t able to take them. Once it was actually time to have her, I don’t think they would have done me much anyway. I had an amazing OB and a great set of nurses who made the actual delivery as smooth as possible considering the conditions. As for a birthing plan, for us, that was a day by day situation. I preferred to have a natural birth, but knew C-section may be a possibility with the pregnancy complications we were experiencing. During our first Labor and Delivery Unit visit, the on call OB made it very clear that it was quite possible we may need an emergency cesarian that night. But, we didn’t! Dave and I did discuss that I would prefer them not have to use a vacuum on her when she was in the birth canal, unless it was the absolute last resort. I remember I was fully dilated and just waiting for her to descend down the birth canal a little more before we pushed and my OB said we may have to vacuum her. Dave and I looked at each other and just prayed that wouldn’t be necessary. I just didn’t like the idea of something being sucked to her head to pull her out. It deforms her head (briefly) more than normal birth and raises the risk of a bleed beneath the scalp and I just didn’t like that idea. But, thankfully, she moved right on down and was out after 28 minutes of pushing! My sweet little miracle baby. So, each couple may have a different birth plan. Some couples choose a birthing center with midwives not at a hospital. Some people choose a planned cesarian over a natural birth and some choose to birth at home. There are quite a few options to decide upon, so make sure to discuss them so both of you are clear on the preferred plan. If you’re thinking a cesarian might be necessary or the route you choose, we had a guest writer share her tips on recovering from a c-section.
Tell your employer, if you haven’t already : Share the exciting news with your employer! Now is also the time to figure out if you have maternity leave, how long it is and if you’ll have paperwork to fill out ahead of time. Find out if you have Short and Long Term Disability and what the plan is for when you go out to have the baby. Some employers even have paternity leave, which may be something your significant other may be interested in looking into.
Plan your Shower and Register : If you are the one planning your shower, now is the time to start discussing ideas with people who may also be involved. If someone else is throwing it- make sure you have your registry completed. There are quite a few places to make baby registries at. One of our favorite places to make one is on Amazon-Create an Amazon Baby Registry! A lot of the time, Amazon offers some kind of free gift for making a registry with them- sometimes it’s free wipes, diapers or a discount code. Make sure to check them out! If you’re looking for a list of registry suggestions off of Amazon, check out this post. If you’re making a registry at one of the baby stores, make sure to see our every mom’s must have registry items
Get Maternity and Nursing Clothing : I found so many awesome maternity and nursing clothing items from Amazon as well! I couldn’t wait to wear the new clothing. The awesome thing about them is, they have access to so many brands and labels. They also have a free return policy on most items. I love that we have Amazon Prime because it makes it easy to get things quickly and efficiently. I loved the items I got from Amazon so much that I still wear some of them postpartum 🙂 Plus, I’ll have them for the next time around.
Start looking for a Pediatrician : You may or may not know who you already want to use for a pediatrician. I would check with your insurance to see who they cover and then start looking at doctors from there. We knew who we wanted for our pediatrician before we were even pregnant. Our pedi had such a great reputation in our area and a few of my other mommy friends used that office, so I was sold! I do want to say to try to get an interview with the doctor before hand. It will help make the first couple visits go smoothly and you’ll feel more comfortable with the doctor and your newborn. If you’re interested, we have a free printable of questions to take with you to the pediatrician interview, make sure to check that post out.
So, that’s our top ten things you should try to get done during your second trimester of pregnancy! Congrats on making it this far and we hope you have a great rest of the pregnancy. If you have any ideas to add to this to do list, feel free to share them below in the comments section. Can’t wait to read them!